News Flash, World…. You’ve got grief. We’ve all got grief.
As a collective, we’ve gotten the concept mixed up, assuming it’s exclusive to bereavement. The truth is that grief is so much more…. Defined by the gurus behind the Grief Recovery Method, “it is the conflicting feelings caused by the change or end of a familiar pattern of behavior.” So, yes, it’s normal to feel loss after the death of a loved one, but it’s equally as common to feel anguish with a divorce, change in career, financial adjustments, end of addiction, even starting school. Who said grief was exclusive to death? It’s not and plays a big part in our life experience, unless you’re the anolomaly living a static life.
If grief is a part of your life, chances are you’re getting by, going through the motions. However, I bet there are days you can’t breathe; you eat like crap, maybe you’re weepy; and, definitely not functioning as normal and you can’t breathe. Ya, I already said that, but it’s true. Shallow, labored breathing is our first reaction to protect a raw and broken heart from feeling another ounce of emotion.
Silly us, we have a lot of the emotional stuff all wrong. For example, somehow we got the idea that time heals grief. That’s equivalent to thinking time will heal a wound with blood gushing out of it. You wouldn’t ignore bleeding to death, nor should you continue to ignore the byproducts of unresolved grief, emotions like frustration, anger, depression.
Take a moment for a few deep breathes through your nose, sip in the last bit you can fit into your lungs and hold it a extra few seconds.
Your happy heart, active lungs will thank you.
PS: Grief is not clinical depression.
A study of almost 9,000 patients established that a large percentage of people diagnosed with depression are misdiagnosed. Not clinically depressed, they are just experiencing unresolved grief due to a prior loss in their lives.